What Makes An Unbreakable BFF

Here’s a question for ya…when is Facebook going to add the option for a BFF?

Everyone in this world needs a best friend forevaaaah. When you laugh, they laugh. When you cry, they cry. If you hate someone, they’ll hate them, too :). If you tell them a secret, they’ll take it to the grave. If you need chin hairs plucked, they’ll let you know! I have one such friend who’s been my BFF for nearly 36 years and I love her to death!

Krista’s lived in Europe for the past 12 years and we haven’t had the opportunity to see each other, but we never skipped a beat talking on the phone–at least weekly! (Thanks to Skype and her phone discount!) So when she moved back to the States, I was ecstatic that I could fly and see her. It was as if we were never apart. I spent 8 fun-filled days with her and I will say that when I left, I cried like a baby!! Don’t believe me?

So what makes an unbreakfable BFF?

They encourage you to do things you know you should do but don’t want to do

On Tuesday and Thursday mornings we put on our yoga pants so whether we chose to eat ourselves sick or go to Tae Kwan Do, we were prepared! (But we inspired each other to go to Tae Kwan Do–cuz that’s what best friends do!) Mr. Yu kicked our butt!

They crop out the worst parts of your body when they post it to Facebook

I knew Krista was my BFF after I noticed she posted a picture of me on the beach that hid 95% of my body! So love you for that! I loved seeing the ocean and being with Krista and her kids at the beach. (I will say watching Shark Week wasn’t the most concerting thing in the world to do before visiting the beach!)

They come through in the clutch

When you really need something done, or a favor, a BFF is there to help you–especially when something is about to exceed the limits of your medication! We were putting the finishing touches on an amazing waterfall and pond Krista built BY HERSELF in her backyard. The special tar we were putting on expanded beyond that which we ever expected spilling out onto the rocks and areas we didn’t want it to go. We felt like cursing, but instead Krista made a funny out of it–remarking that it looked like a tar baby exploded all over. We got to giggling about it and couldn’t stop. Then we went to work fixing it. It looks beautiful.

They sacrifice doing something they love to do something you love

Krista knows my love of gardening and shuffled me around to garden centers, garden sites, and sight seeing to soak in all of the beauty. I loved that! AND she even made me vegetarian foods for my weird lifestyle–even eating at Whole Foods for lunch one day. You rock, Krista!

They laugh and smile at the dumbest, weirdest, stupidest things with you

We’ve always teased that when we get old, we’ll finally get to be together in a care center; only we’ll have Alzheimer’s and not remember each other. I’d ask her “What’s your name?” and she’d say Krista, and I’d say “I had a best friend named Krista once…”. Just our luck.

They have a caring and listening ear

Nobody likes a friend who just talks and talks but doesn’t listen. How long would that friendship last? Perhaps this has been the strongest aspect of our friendship. Krista can be brutally honest with me–I like that kind of integrity. She tells me respectfully when I am wrong. After all, we learn from our mistakes, not from being right all the time, right?

Krista is an active listener. She knows when not to talk.You know the saying? “The dumb person talks; the wise person listens?” Ya, that’s true. Sometimes we’re comfortable just being with our bestie and not constantly having to talk to fill in the silence.

They never trash-talk about you 

I have never ever had that feeling of insecurity that Krista is trash-talking about me behind my back. I have complete faith and trust that whatever she doesn’t like, she’ll let me know instead of spreading gossip, rumors, or putting me down. I know too many people who do that and so I LOVE that we have enough love and respect for each other NOT to do that. The sign of a true friendship is when you rave about each other to each other as well as to others.


Krista, I feel secure in knowing that we’ll be best friends forever–because you know too much about me! Ha. Thank you for still being my friend despite the fact that you are completely aware of every terrifying, raunchy and explicit detail of my life! I love you, my BFF!


About Jen

Jen is owner, author, and creative mind behind Bakerette. Jen eats a vegan diet and recently converted Bakerette to a plant-based website that offers a smattering of healthful recipes! Jen is author of the cookbook Festive Feasts: Meals and Memories from Halloween to Christmas, which can be purchased online at Amazon or Barnes & Noble.


  1. Got several of your recipes I am going to use for Christmas!!! They all look great! Hope you and family have a blessed one….

    • Thank you, Grace, for the sweet compliments! I hope you enjoy and like what you make. And may you also enjoy the holidays and have a blessed one.

  2. I’m so glad you saw this post! My dedication to you for all of the years of your love and support. Thank YOU for your sweet words and comments. You are my rock! I love you dearly.

  3. AWWWWW! I thank God above for bringing us together as friends all those years ago. Everything you said about me, I say about you (and I WOULD help you on your yard or house when I come again…) Youa re so dear to me, I can’t hardly think of life without you. Thanks for the great person you are. The mutual admiration club, I say! :)

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